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The first is to let go of the fantasy that all children living in nuclear families have two totally engaged parents who lavish their love and attention on all their children, and on each other, in a home free of anger, conflict, and recriminations.The second is to grab onto a different sort of possibility - that many children living with single mothers have other important adults in their lives, too.And isn't each of the parents in a married couple all the better at parenting for having the love and support of each other?So I wasn't surprised when the results of a national substance abuse survey, based on 22,000 adolescents, found more substance abuse among the children of single mothers than among the children of two biological parents.Here is what I wrote for the Huffington Post on Mother's Day in 2007 (before I started blogging here).*************** "Mom and Dad." In our cultural fantasies, that team will always be #1 when it comes to raising happy and healthy kids.
Know when your paycheck or other income will arrive, and keep track of household bills. If you need a job, contact employment and temporary agencies for help.
Being a single parent doesn't mean you can't have an adult life. Learning good ways to handle your children's behavior will reduce stress for all of you.
Get a babysitter and enjoy some time alone or with friends. Though being a single parent can get lonely, try not to treat your children like substitutes for a partner. Be aware that your children will always be affected by your mood and attitude.
But, considering the rhetoric about single parenting, I was struck by how few of the children of single mothers had substance problems - 5.7% -- and how similar the number was for the children of two biological parents - 4.5%.
A difference of about one percentage point is not a very big return on twice the love, attention, and resources. In a nationally representative sample of many different kinds of households - two-parent biological households, single-mother households, adoptive households, stepmother, and stepfather households - there were no differences at all.
Single parenthood can bring added pressure and stress to the job of raising children.