Dating islamic way internet dating a web of deceit
Let me break the suspense by saying that I have yet to find that one verse.
The good news is that my search has given me a much better understanding of this difficult question.
By that time, the "rightfully yours" dream date may be out of your life and you realize your useful excuse provided temporary pleasure at a great expense to your soul.
The main problem with the rightfully yours argument is that this Quranic statement has nothing to do with supporting dating intentions.
Believe me, I have spent many nights racking my brain trying to figure this one out for myself back in my teenage years.
I yearned for that one magical verse or explanation that makes everything clear.
Based on the flawed reasoning, sexual relations with someone who is rightfully yours is not as bad and makes you feel less guilty about your actions.
For some, there may be a sincere intention to have only a platonic social interaction with a person.My findings brought me to the realization that dating is a process which occupies a great deal of your emotions and tempts you physically so fast that you don't realize what hit you. The "game of dating" --especially if you're a Muslim-- inevitably spins out of control and becomes very hard to maintain.The real challenge to your faith starts when the attention shifts away from the needs of your soul to the needs of your body and drains your efforts to increase your remembrance of God.I hate to take something from a song, much less a Beyonce song but in this case, "If you want it, then you better put a ring on it." (Of course when it comes to Muslims, you don't need a ring to get married but you get my point.)Basically, Dating makes you forget about Allah (obeying him, doing the right thing).The daily challenge of obeying Allah and doing the right thing becomes harder and less active in your mind as you become increasingly attracted to your mate with your thoughts, emotions, and time.
You may try to ease your mind quickly by defining sexual relations as intercourse only, leaving all other contact as fair game.