College student dating a teacher
For instance: I hasten to add that none of these point to any clear ethical lapse or mistake on your part.
In particular, the idea that it is disturbing for a much older (adult) to date a much younger (adult) may be more of a societal taboo/hangup than anything that can be rationally justified.
Generally speaking, the school or school system has a policy that states that romantic/sexual relationships are not allowed. sure it is, each state has their own rules regarding age of consent, while 18 goes for all 50 states many have lower ages with differing rules.
One could also argue that the school serves in loco parentis, which I'm pretty sure is true even if the the student is of age. In colleges and universities, these days there is typically a policy that states that a staff or faculty member may not enter into a romantic/sexual relationship either with a person over whom the staff member has evaluative power. here in Washington Ao C is 16 but as posted already, not if you are in a position of authority over the minor.
So long as the professor-student relationship continues to exist, a potential power imbalance exists, and an ethical problem arises. The very notion that I must temporarily restrain myself from choosing such a relationship with the people whom I actively have direct authority over... The idea that anyone is permanently blacklisted from being a potential candidate, just because I have ever encountered that person in a class which I taught, is way too unfairly exclusionary. I remember a college class which was required for all students in the college.
Whether your colleagues consider this a serious ethical problem is addressed by Pete Clark's answer. Would it be a sensible expectation that a college professor should be required to seek a mate from among the less educated, or from a remote town?
Otherwise you may consider social implications as other answers suggest, but behaving in accordance with social conventions has nothing to do with ethics. Because it has attracted low-quality or spam answers that had to be removed, posting an answer now requires 10 reputation on this site (the association bonus does not count).This is often true even if the person is a substitute, adjunct, or teaching assistant. so while I can legally have sex with 16 year old girls I cant with my students because I am their teacher.Edit: There may also be a statement to the effect that some amount of time has to pass before any other kind of relationship can even be discussed. same goes for the boss/guardian/whatever has some power over the minor in question. Especially since just in the last couple of days there have been very public court cases on the matter in Australia and New Zealand -- the two countries where I have taught.Sometimes they publish papers with their former students as coauthors, based on work they previously did together.Further, if "student" means that this student completed a thesis under OP's direction (and not just took a class from OP), then this relationship is a lifelong one. If I am single, I reserve the right to pick off a member of society to be my mate.