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) A sensitive child who is repeatedly invalidated becomes confused and begins to distrust his own emotions. The Power of Positive Thinking was a big one at the time.
He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools. She would have me read to her while she made dinner. I believe in being mindful of our feelings, and expressing them unless it would be harmful to someone else in which case, find a safe outlet write, paint, maybe vent to a listening friend.
In abusive homes, they may have been severely punished for expressing certain thoughts and feelings. So I guess I will continue thinking and looking serious when I think about things that are important to me.
Self-injury is probably the result of many different factors. One day I was feeling very discouraged and depressed because a project I had started to help orphans in Bulgaria had been cancelled.
Or it may eventually isolate them from their feelings, with a resulting loss of major part of their natural intelligence. Most of them are so insidious that we don't even know what is happening. I swear I want to just shout out WHAT THE F**K?? "One day in Australia I decided to try hang gliding.
All invalidation is a form of psychological attack. Previoiusly she told me she was raised in a dysfunctional family.
A healthier response, one which is both informative and assertive, without being aggressive, is to simply express your feelings clearly and concisely. So I suppose they think they can tell someone how to feel and, then like magic, that will work, too.
For example, you might respond, "I feel invalidated," "I feel mocked," or "I feel judged." One factor common to most people who self-injure, whether they were abused or not, is invalidation. Now I am wondering,..someone says, "Don't think so much," how does one do that?
A person with well-developed emotional intelligence, a healthy set of emotional skills, empathy, and a healthy self-esteem will rarely invalidate another person's feelings, especially not the feelings of a sensitive child.
And yet, it is neither illegal, "immoral" nor even widely recognized as a problem.